Love
never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are
tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 13:8 NIV
Hello friends,
Let me shock you: there is nothing called love at first
sight contrary to popular opinion! “Are you serious?’’ someone might be tempted
to ask me.
Instead, it is what I call “attraction at first sight.” You
get attracted to anybody that fits into the mental picture of what you like. For
example, I met my wife at the school library during my undergraduate days, and
one thing that attracted me were her eyes (winks).i was swept up my feet before
I began to relate more with her and by God’s we are married (12 years in the
journey of marriage and still counting by God’s grace).
Many singles are moved by infatuation and assumed it is love!
Assumption can be very costly dear friends. This is because love and
infatuation feels the same way,
BUT the difference between the two is:
infatuation expires easily, but love stays. The Bible paints love thus: “
Love never
ends…” 1 Corinthians 13:8a.
How many
of you have ever met someone that you felt so good about and three days later
you ask yourself, “What came over me?’’ That, my friend is what is called
infatuation!
Differences
between Love and Infatuation
Love
talks about devotion, infatuation talks about emotion. In love you “grow into”
relationship then marriage, but for infatuation, you “fall into” and end up with
heartbreaks and disappointment.
Love gives
a aura of security, but infatuation begets an aura of uncertainty. Love lasts, infatuation
is short lived or temporal.
The language
of love is “I love you,” while the language of infatuation is “I want you.” In
love, the bond is strengthened with time, while infatuation gets weakened with
time.
The curriculum
of love is based on shared experience, beliefs or attitudes, while the curriculum
of infatuation is based on physical attraction or popularity. With love you
become friends as well as lovers, but for infatuation, no real friendship. With
love you can wait to marry, but infatuation is based on sex.
And finally,
love always wants what’s best for the other person, while infatuation wants
what’s best for themselves.
Conclusion:
Don’t mistake a temporary infatuation with love. You could end up with a bag of
long term regrets.
Stay
blessed.
Your
friend,
LAWRENCE,
SOLOMON BAMIDELE.
