Hello
friends,
Let’s talk
about addiction and its overall effects on relationships – whether dating or
courtship
.
But
upon mount Zion shall be deliverance, and there shall be holiness; and the
house of Jacob shall possess their possessions. (Obadiah 17, KJV)
What is an addiction?
Addiction is a
condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continuation of
which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary responsibilities and concerns,
such as work, relationships, or health. People who have developed an addiction may not be aware
that their behavior is out of control and causing problems for themselves and
others.(psychologytoday.com)
Addiction is a brain disorder characterized
by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences.
(Wikipedia)
People with an addiction
do not have control over what they do or talk about.
Types of addiction
For the sake of this write
up, addiction include (but not limited to):
Addiction to hard drugs,
addiction to gambling, addiction to masturbation, addiction to violent sex,
addiction to making money illegally, addiction to same sex for relationship (lesbianism
and gay), addiction to pornography, addiction to married men or women,
addiction to football, addiction to occult practices, addiction to fornication,
addiction to adultery, addiction to stealing, addiction to naked dressing, and
the summary of all addiction to sin.
Ways Out of addiction
The addiction level of
individuals varies and the first I would advise is to seek for medical
attention.
There are some addictions
that medical practices have no cure, but such can be dealt with spiritually
once the situation is properly diagnosed.
Addiction and relationships
A person who is deep in
one form of addiction or another is not fit to be in a dating/courtship
relationship, much less consider marriage.(until they have at least started
down the path toward recovery.
Quite a number of singles
today, are in one form of abusive relationship or the other. Some lady suffers
physical assault from their partners; others are savagely raped sexually. Victims
of such abusive relationship are afraid to cry out.
Are you in an abusive
relationship that has its root in an addiction? Is your partner struggling with
any known addiction? Such a fellow does not need to be in a relationship, much
considering marriage. That would be suicidal. You must break away from such
individuals before they completely ruin your life.
Most people are into
relationships without taking stock of the partner’s life. So many people are so
much “in love” glossing over the apparent flaws of addiction in their partner.
Addictions
are a tool of the devil
to keep people in bondage and away from God. But there is hope – God is stronger than the
devil or any addiction. If you or someone you know is struggling with any sort
of addiction, the fellow should first seek medical help, and if it cannot be
handled or there is no head way, then deliverance would suffice.
Stay
blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.
Your
friend,
LAWRENCE,
SOLOMON BAMIDELE
