Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through
factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being
neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than
yourselves. Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:3-4 AMP)
In the world
generally, what people care about is what is in it for me? A self-centered
fellow is dangerous fellow. Relationships end quickly via the platforms of ego,
disrespect, selfishness or disloyalty.
For marriage to succeed the oneness factor MUST prevail. For
marriage to be meaningful, the singleness mentality must be completely
obliterated from the sub-conscious of the couples.
The Bible points out that marriage is the reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his
wife, and the two will become one flesh. (Ephesian 5:31)
So if you are not ready to let go
the single person’s mindset, then you are not yet ripe or matured for marriage
(irrespective of your age.)
Quite unfortunate that many go
into marriage with a single person’s mindset and a self-centered mentality. Marriage
is really about giving up yourself for your spouse
.
A self-absorbed person only can
see the faults of others. But, they are often colour blind to their own.
Self-centeredness will do more
harm than good to your spouse and ultimately to your marriage. Most of the
issues that have led many promising marriages to the realm of divorce can be
hinged one being selfish and self-centre. Not considering how your action and
inaction affects your spouse.
That is why marriage is liken to
the relationship between the Lord Jesus Christ and the church being the bride.
The Lord Jesus Christ gave Himself up sacrificially for the church.
Listen dear friends, true love is
selfless; it is prepared to sacrifice without being prompted.
As you contemplate marriage, you
must ask yourself quite a number of questions, one of them being, “Am i ready
to let go of my single-hood mindset?”
Stay blessed and prosperous in
Jesus name.
Your friend,
LAWRENCE, SOLOMON BAMIDELE.
Further Bible Reference: Roman
12:10; Mark 12:13; 1 Peter3:8; 2 Corinthians 8:9; Galatians 5:13
