Courtship Guide For Christian Singles In Preparation For Marriage

Today, we shall be looking at some typical questions often asked by youths/singles in relationship; and it is my sincere believe that you will benefit tremendously from the four questions below…

QUESTION: I know the will of God the man I want to marry. He loves me and I love him, but my parent just refused to give their consent. They reasoned that he does come from our tribe. Can I still go ahead to marry him, having confirmed that it is the will of God for us to be husband and wife.

ANSWER: You need your parents consent before you marry. If they disagree based on tribal differences, then give the the relationship more time and start working on your parents prayerfully. After all, the Bible says that the heart of a king is in God’s Hand and He, God can influence such hearts -that of your parents inclusive. You need to make your parents to see the benefit of such a union if they give their blessing. As you tarry in the place of prayer, God will touch them to accept and give their consent. The courtship may tarry, but marriage will not be denied. Stay blessed!

QUESTION: I am engaged to a young spirit-filled, born-again Christian. I love him and he loves me, but the problem is that I am so much more than him in the things of God. I have tried to encourage him to grow spiritually by sharing the Word of God with him occasionally, but have remained in an elementary stage spiritually; if we get married, will this affect our marriage?

ANSWER: It is very dangerous to get married to a man who does not want to develop himself and grow spiritually. Remember that God expect the man to be the spiritual head in marriage, so how do you expect him to lead his family in the things of God when he does not strive to grow spiritually. This may be a sign that the relationship is not to be.

QUESTION: As a young Christian, I want to know if dating the opposite sex is permitted. I am still very young and I am not looking forward to marriage yet. Someone said courtship is allowed only. Does it mean I cannot have friends of the opposite sex from whom I would choose whom to marry later in life if God is in it? Please help, because I want to know how to relate with the opposite sex as I am still growing up. Thanks.

ANSWER: Young boys and girls growing up should keep themselves and continue to serve God until they reach the age for marriage and are ready to settle down. You can then get married. Dating can be very dangerous as it could lead to sin as the individuals concerned can easily get emotionally attached and Satan can take advantage of this and cause them to fall into sexual sins.

QUESTION: What is courtship? How long should it be?

ANSWER: Courtship is a period of time during which intending couples authenticate their choice of marriage partner. So, when we are talking about how long; it should be as long as you have been able to assure yourself that your choice is right one and you know that too well. That calls for time. Experienced marriage counselors have advised a minimum of six months. However, this is not to engage in the fault finding adventure, but to be able to prove all things according to God’s Word which says, “Prove all things: hold that which is goo”. 1Thes.5:21

If you have other issues that need clarification with respect to relationship, do not hesitate to mail me at courtshipguide@gmail.com. I would be more than delighted to answer your questions God helping me. Till I come your way again, remember Jesus Christ is coming soon. So, remain focused, prayerful and stay out of trouble.